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Life lessons from Lobsters ​

There’s an interesting, urban myth about lobsters. When you cook a pot of male lobsters, you have to keep a lid on the cooking pot because when they realize they’re in a pot of boiling water, they try to escape even-though, they know it is futile. On the contrary, when cooking female lobsters, you don’t need to put a lid on the pot, as they don’t show such willingness to escape as they know there’s no point in fighting a fight, which they have already lost. So, they just hold their claws and brace each other for the impending doom.

Although, this is factually incorrect, as lobster have a ganglionic nervous system and they do not feel pain like us. In fact, boiling or steaming them is the most humane and quickest way to kill. Never the less, this myth still sites a good question about life. Should we die fighting or surrender to the whims of time?

Well, What I feel is, knowing when to surrender or quit is equally important as knowing how to keep on fighting or not giving up. Off course, perseverance and never backing down from a challenge are desired qualities, if you want to be successful in life, relationship or even career. After all, One can’t just give up! There are a thousand reasons for continuing with something past the point where you should stop. But perhaps it might be impossible to “just stop”. However, more often then not we consider perseverance to strive for gold as the only norm for being successful because giving up is labeled, trivial or cowardly. In my opinion, many of the “buts” are mostly a figment of the imagination. In fact, they are just a case of mis-staken identity. You, and your goals are two separate things. Never giving up, is just a load of bullshit that we have brewed ourselves, out of the fear of social judgment and prejudice on our own abilities. We sugarcoat the rationale for not backing off with a pretext of psychological comfort often attributing it to the fear of the unknown, aka atychiphobia or the self-inflicted need of not causing a social uproar by upsetting others, that too, just because we falsely and inconspicuous, assign safety and entropy to perseverance and persistence. This obsession with never giving up is not perseverance, for the lack of a better word it is actually blind persistence. It is this blind persistence that eventually turns any quest into an exhausting and useless ordeal.

Yes!, it is logical to think that, if we were to endure a little longer or persistently work on something, then maybe with time we will fix all the problems and reach our goals. But isn’t it also logical to think, that things don’t always go the way we want them too? Even if we work tirelessly, trying to make things right by overlooking the fact, that our very attempts to fix things might be having a negative impact on them as well as on us. So, instead of being persistent in such futile fixes and enduring the pain and ordeal of living through troubled times among other things, is it not sometimes imperative to give up, just plain, old and simple, “STOP”.

One may argue, Yes!, it is true to let go of our goals and other trivial quests since, they can be readily replaced with other and better ones, but what about jobs, relationships, and friendships? After all, they are not easy to come by, one must work for them if they want to be happy in life. To that I only say this, Sure, working toward a worthwhile goal is elating and exciting but the moment you lose excitement about your achievements you should understand that probably it is not what you wanted, it is just what you do as it is not catering to your innate desires. As Cloris Kylie says and i quote, “You’ve become used to striving and never arriving.”. Although knowing when to quit may seem a convoluted idea but think upon it, not giving up on a job, a relationship or friendships can more often than not, make you unhappy or even physically and emotionally ill. What good a job is, if you are just doing it for the money but have no other incentives or receive no recognition for it; what good a relationship is, if the partners are not committed to it or there is no room for love anymore; what good a friendship is, if you are the only one hooting for it.

If a quest takes over all other aspects of your life then you must learn to let go of it, life is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest; all thing that hinders this must be reconsidered by weighing their reason for continuation against that of life itself, because if you let your blind persistence overpower the aspects of your mental, emotional or physical wellbeing then any way you will lose all your physical strength as well as your coveted social assets like friends, family, and love.

OK, enough babel about why one should learn to give up, but how to determine, if it’s time to give up? The simplest and sure shot solution, that I can think of is, asking this question to yourself, What would be my life if I just stopped trying to solve it? And if, your inner aura answers, freedom and exhilaration then probably its time you gave up on it. Agreed that many things are iterative and demand continuous improvements and growth but at the same time, some things remand step changes and the decision to “give up” is one of those. So, it is important that you simply rip off the plaster on them. Painful, yes, but if you don’t, they will end up taking a huge chunk from your life, because just face it, continued work on a Gordian knot, expecting a solution with each iteration will ultimately lead to frustration and unbeknown you will begin to sabotage your own efforts.

It is always advisable to contemplate and reassess the outcome or needs of your goal and, if they seem realistic then you should see to their resolution. If not, it’s best that you reassess your commitment and avarice towards the goal in question. Don’t fall for the “what if ?” rouse. What if, I gave up now and then someone else did the same idea and got rich? What if, I just keep going another month? I recommend, to let your gut feeling guide you. You are most attuned to your intuition, learn to trust them and let them guide you to the places, you’re meant to go, the career you’re meant to have, and the people you’re meant to meet.

Speaking from personal experience, I spent half a decade working for a company, rejecting a job, I actually wanted to do because I had fallen into an agenda about the city I was in. Even-thought it was not stressful, but it sure was hard, my success was measured by random bets and the money was just decent. I was spending time on things that might work, not on things that were working. It was a good candidate to “give up”. The only advice I needed was to hear, “What the hell are you doing?, Just give up”. Not that it wasn’t offered, but perhaps, I didn’t listen, or maybe, I needed someone to give it to me straight. Although I didn’t waste my time there, but the prospect of being locked into something that was not working out, and was actually dragging me down was much worst. In the end, I quit, man was it hard. At first, it was horrible, there were a fair few failure-phobes, few who respected taking it easy more than trying and failing and even those who preferred the dull path. But I feed the inner best, my biggest asset – myself, by giving it up.

Sure, making the decision to give up is not be easy, may even cause you temporary pain, emotional trauma or remorse, but once you overcome these negative emotions, you’ll be able to welcome loving and uplifting thoughts into your life, opening a door to fulfilling and joyful life experiences, setting you on a path of learning, growth, and expansion!

So all in all, here are the 7 erogenous zones to touch when accessing whether to give it or not, not those of women, according to “Monica Gelllller :

  1. Just Listen to yourself
  2. Re-tally your numbers
  3. Get outside evaluation
  4. Be ready to rip off the plaster
  5. Take Atychiphobia head on
  6. Vanquish the “what if” worm, and
  7. Remember the cost of opportunity

7 erogenous zones ​in a women

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रूह

काश कुछ ऐसा हो जाए

ये वक्त चलता रहे,

ये लम्हे चलते रहें,

ये पहर चलता रहे,

बस मेरी उम्र थम जाए।

मैं समेट लूँ सारी यादें,

मैं सहेज लूँ सारे पलों को,

देख लूँ जी भर के

उन आँखों को,

इस दुनिया में जिनसे सबसे पहले रूबरू हुआ।

मैं थाम लूँ उस ऊंगली को

जो कभी मुझे थामे चली थी।

वो खिलखिलाती हँसी

जो कभी मेरे साथ खेली थी।

बस इतनी सी ही तो ख्वाहिश है,

बे-वक्त के इस मुसाफिर की।

छोटी सी राह का जिसका

बस तीसरा हिस्सा है बाकी।।

आकर क़रीब अपनों के और थोड़ा,

कुछ और अच्छा कर जाऊँ।

छोटे से इस सफर के

सुकून भरे पलों को

यादों में पिरो जाऊँ।

या फिर

रहकर दूर उनसे,

ग़म के बवन्डर से बचाने को उनको,

बेरूखी वाला मुखौटा ओढ़ जाऊँ।।

रहगुज़र हूँ तेरा,

कि तूने जो भी दिया

झोली भर के दिया।

रहगुज़र हूँ तेरा,

कि दिये हुए हौसले से तेरे

अपने दम पर कुछ किया।

रहगुज़र हूँ तेरा,

कि कई ख्वाबों को अपने

मैंने हकी़कत में जिया।

रहगुज़र हूँ तेरा,

कि जरा से वक्त में ही

तेरे होने को समझ लिया।

ईबादतग़ार हूँ तेरा

शिकायतग़ार नहीं,

कि अलग बनाकर भी तूने

खास बना दिया।। — रूह

This poem is the best gift i have ever received from someone. someone whom i have grown to adore and respect not only for the fitful exuberance but also for the Indefatigable deftness in distilling soulful and picturesque emotion by the infallible sagacity in choice of words that eloquently succour the baroque and beguiling poems.

Thanks M ,

By the way this only of the poems from M rest assured 100’s more to come…..

Are religious people inferior life forms compared to enlightened atheists?

Atheists don’t boast superiority nor they profess of being the enlightened one and Religion plays little to no role in determining superiority nor does it affects enlightenment.

Superiority is a simply a concept made-up by narcissists with a god complex. Superiority doesn’t imply enlightenment not does enlightenment imply superiority, men are not created equal they “were” equal. It’s the inner moral compass that guides you to enlightenment, not your religion or the lack of it.

History has numerous examples where men claimed they were superior to others because of their religious beliefs or the superiority of their religion. But just look, what these superiors have done. From the ulama’s of Islam, who use jihad as a tool to commit murders in the name of God; to the protectors of the faith of the Christ with their of crusades and franchise of conversion; or the god-men of Hinduism with their megalomaniac egos. These over glorified fascist and fanatics have twisted and drained the entirety of Morales and aura of enlightenment from their own faiths.

Just because, you have a different belief system which you consider to be an epitome of enlightenment or a social order that you remark as civilized, doesn’t necessarily makes you superior or enlightened.

Think about it, the Spanish conquistadores present them themselves as gods to the Mayans and Incas, proclaiming to be enlightened and superior to their ancient ways. But these enlightened supremacists destroyed a much superior society. I agree they were barbarians but shouldn’t these enlightened gods have instead helped them overcome that one thing. Or weren’t these enlightened beings as barbaric as them, for slaughtering millions in the name of God.

In fact, modern educated society is also not different in that regard. Men like Jim Jones, Shoko Asahara, Bhindranwale, Joseph Koney, Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi and much more developed a cult around them which ultimately leads to the death of humanity itself. Hitler professed of Aryan supremacy and look what he did with that supremacy. And only an egomaniac narcissist would think that some people are superior to others. Africans were said to be an inferior race but science ultimately proved that in fact, they are the real forefathers of humans race on earth.

So you see enlightenment and superiority are worlds apart. An enlightened society will never deal with a relative concept like superiority.

Buddha was enlightened but we turned him into a religious figure and polluted his teachings. Krishan was enlightened but he is was promoted to the status of a god, Christ was enlightened and still, millions were slaughtered for his glory, Mohammad was enlightened but we killed his ideology for a ransom called heaven.

GOD, a product by humans

If god created men in his own image, I have no interest in meeting him

Humans, A species that has the misguided pride of being the only sentient beings in the known universe. In reality, they are the worst scavengers this universe will ever see. Their tendency to destroy anything or everything that is beautiful has no match, except for black holes maybe. Just Look the world around you, can you see a single ounce of beauty as it was meant to be. Their stupidity and greed knows no limit. They fight like rabid dogs over most ridiculous and unreal issues. They plunder and rape morality and sanity over unworthy buffoons and idols while seeking justice in rubbish and trashy works of fiction. And the saddest part is; to ease their burden of guilt; they have crafted a very clever workaround.

Humans with their infinite imagination, have concocted an omnipotent and omnipresent fictional character called “GOD” packaged in a sturdy box called religion. So, that they can easily pass their baton of guilt and burden of forgiveness on to him. They even added a tag line to this concoction for added spectacle, “To err is human; to forgive is divine.”

But the irony in this is, during this extravaganza endeavor they grossly overlooked a fact. The fact that, if this omnipresent and omniscient being, was supposed to be the creator of them in his own true image. Then doesn’t the tag line, in turn, implies that he himself was flawed. Doesn’t it render the whole concept of a great almighty creator as nefarious and illogical?

Just think about it,
Would you want your best creation to be inherently flawed?
Would you instill qualities in them that are deemed unworthy and flawed?
Or,
Why would you create greed, envy, wrath, sloth, gluttony, lust and pride?
If, they are the very flaws you want to rinse out, even from yourself.

Yet, interestingly enough these feeble minded dim wits have an explanation for it. A grossly oversimplified yet, misleading one. An explanation which itself begs the questions. If, he was so angry that he condemned his own creation to these sins then wasn’t he himself committing the sin of wrath and pride.

Alas! if, this frenzy stopped here. These so called, “Sentients” even crafted convoluted terms and conditions outlining their self-justifying and self-validating theories, to go along with their scam of a product. A sort of disclaimer which basically states that, even if they commit any one of the deadly sins, they are not to be blamed, as it’s not them, but some higher power conspiring against them and their beloved product called “Religion”. In fact, they even stamped this fraudulent claim as bigotry. Though this is both foolish and blind prejudice. Still, in the due time, it has transmuted into a real hard fact.

If only, they could experience, what actual bigotry is? Perhaps then, they could see the ugliness of this deceptive product.If only, these liars could somehow irrevocably understand that sins are not the real problem, but they themselves are.The hard and undeniable truth is, they indeed opened the Pandora’s box with this radical product of theirs. And are now playing the devil’s advocate themselves.

But, what bothers me the most is,
Their oblivious dependence on gods, prophets or messiahs.
Their reliance and faith in the facts stated in dithered and fictional works of literature which even a buffoon could tell were pure garbage.

Their capacity to inflict pain and brainwash entire generations into a hoax of a product in fancy packing.Their confusing, yet methodical approach to conform feeble minded brethren to their false beliefs and misguided morality.

I believe, it’s about time that this defective and expired product was pulled off the shelves and incinerated into oblivion from which it emanated in the first place. If this plagued product is allowed to run amok as it has been for millennia, then we are sure to face an armageddon in-spite of our prowess in scientific or technological avenues. Even though human logic and imagination knows, no rival but, it definitely faces rivalry from this creation of theirs.

Spirituality and India

What is spirituality?

Its was an alien concept in India, Only the west knew spirituality. The word spirituality was defined by Christians. India never wanted spirituality.
All india wanted was to be a salve to dharma a concept far boarded and complex then spirituality.
Dharma a 1000’s of years old concept that almost per-dates religion itself or say spirituality.
Yes! dharma is not religion. Its more a way of life or perhaps a pathway that leads to a peaceful of life.
This concept was lost somewhere along the history. Now a days spirituality starts with money and ends with money.
We have some how got it mixed with the ridiculous notion that listening to hypocrite and god-men rant random verses from books of wisdom is spirituality.
Spirituality is not something you can earn its something that can only be experienced. You cannot share it nor can you preach it.
Yes indeed, India or for that matter the entire world lacks spirituality. We have polluted it with religion and terms like self-discovery.
Spirituality is more about self-belief, awareness and empathy.

What is satisfaction:

Do you think, such a thing really exists? Some people say they have seen or touched it but I think its all smoke no fire. I mean, just honestly have you ever seen this elusive beast yourself. No! you have only heard myths about it never facts.

I think it’s one of the most coveted secret guarded closely by oligarch of the puppeteer that people over millennia have called God. Just think about it if this secret were ever to come out will his kingdom survive. After all, he thrives off the prayers generated out of misery, not on the thanks from satisfaction. If someone says he’s satisfied I recommend to get as far as possible from that person. Believe you me that person will eventually ask you to donate all your worldly possession to him so that you can also have stratification. It’s just one of those terms created by society to provide a false sense of security or something to keep you shackled to the pursuit of an equally ridiculous concept called money.

It’s like one of those rare gems, surely to cause pillage on its way. It is like a sorcerer, always seeking ways to torture or chain you up. If you want to get out of its wretched grip, then you gotta be a rebellion. Once you give into its devotion, its detrimental dysfunction, slowing rushing you to destruction, you are liable to get alienated. Because face it society is a two faced bitch. No matter how much it raves for satisfaction. It likes no one who is satisfied. They won’t hesitate to shut you out, with no recourse at all. But to some extent, their anxiety is rightly pointed. It’s a fact satisfaction eventually lead to clogging of progress.

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If you are satisfied with what you have, then what’s the need to innovate, deliberate or create. I would say satisfaction is and will always remain biased or a salve to the fabric of time. You may say, satisfaction is having the most exotic lunch box as a child, satisfaction is kissing your love as a teenager, satisfaction is buying a new car as a man or satisfaction is being with family when you grow old. I believe one should always stride towards success not for satisfaction but for gratification or just the thrills of it. The World may brand success as addictive but its a good addiction not like the necromancer that satisfaction is.

State of Affairs at Oldest Company in Universe

In my opinion the company’s CEO has abandoned his abode and now is in pursuit of a better career. Or, perhaps he is reevaluating his work ethics or questioning his employees dedication towards his visions.
Many subsidiaries have not been true to the actual company vision. And some creative campaigns by regional heads has gone out of hand. It’s been a while since any new product was milled while most of the versions in circulation are very slow in introducing updates or hot fixes.
Revolutionizing products like Christianity and Islam did tried to diversify their holdings but are now suffering from the surge of cheap knockoffs in market introduced by ambitious stakeholders. Even good products like Hinduism, Buddhism and Jainism have not been performing well despite of increasing profits. New competition from ultra modern and slick atheism is getting fierce by day. The hysteria and confusion spread by hardcore fans and fanatics is one of the main factors contributing to this increased competition. Widespread bribery and bureaucracy at offices coupled with Infestation of rodents or the so-called saviors of company and protectors of stakeholders interest has plagued the enterprise. It has weakened companies core foundations. The original manifesto has now morphed into a different version by constant misinterpretation and toying of centuries by greedy publishers and writers. It’s getting agonizing to come by unaltered or unadulterated versions of it.
Unethical practices has grown exponentially in last two decades mainly in new branch offices. In-spite of CEO’s constant warning and strict approach most of the management is under slumber and pays no heed to his warnings. If something is not done soon, company shares will definitely plummet to levels like the thousand years (4th to 14th century) depression in Europe.
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Infulence of Religion Over the Years
 I think CEO should revel himself to the media before it’s too late to distance his good name that is being dragged through mud. He should visit his offices and fire unworthy employees or managers who are driving his dream company into the ground. Also, his legal team has been on a sabbatical for far too long while the proxies they hired to do the job have grown greedy and needy. All thanks to the influx of lobbyists and their mounds of gold plundered over the past century. The plethora of rouge advertising campaigns, with phony offers can be blamed equally. These campaigns by regional offices are butchering his image.He should expunge all the overhead expenditures and streamline company organogram; if he wishes to survive the impending doom.
A new PR plan is needed to extradite gangrenous parts while salvaging healthy ones. Radical new product is required to keep check on management, something at par with hell but reserved only for them. Some sort of tit for tat approach is require. Since, they have been plagiarizing his works by twisting and swirling it to their whims and instilling fear to thrive on miseries.
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